Sometimes parents help their children too much. Adults can’t live their children’s lives for them. Our task is to help them grow and gain their own experience, and it’s important not to overdo it.
Comfia has collected a few things that we should never do for our children. Take these things into account, and your children will thank you.
1. Talk for them
It all starts with those happy moments when a small kid is asked, “Oh, what is your name?” and we, the parents, want to respond, “It’s Jason.” It would be nice if this habit ended once a child learns to speak. But no, we manage to give answers even for our teenage children everywhere: in stores, at home, and in other places.
And what do we have in the end? We take from our kids the chance to answer for themselves. You can give a hint to a kid about what to say if they ask you to. But you definitely should never talk for them.
What to do? Next time when you want to speak for your child, try to stop yourself. Let them speak for themselves.
2. Be their friend
Many parents try to become friends with their children, and they don’t want their kids to have any secrets from them. We can easily understand why parents want this, but let’s try to look at this a little deeper. What is a friend? It’s a person you can talk to on equal terms. Yes, you can tell anything to a friend.
However, parents have a different role: they care about us and love us. There is no need to try to be very close friends. Let kids look for their own friends among people their own age. Mom and Dad are there for when kids need love and support.
What to do? Say no to being too close in a relationship. Learn to support and respect each other.